I absolutely love babies and love being a father. If I wasn’t building websites I’d run some sort of daddy daycare. I truly believe humans are at their most interesting before they can talk.
I have two step-daughters, two daughters and a son. They are nothing less than the best thing to ever happen to me. No exceptions. Period.
For me, the announcement of another baby is special. Another perfect little thing to fuss over. More first smiles, first steps, midnight feeds and ‘I can’t believe something so disgusting came out of something so beautiful’ nappy changing moments.
Unfortunately, the words “We’re having a baby” no longer have the happy effect they once did when my wife and I utter them to family and friends. These words are now (mostly) met with looks of anxiety and worry. Why?
For reasons that no one seems able to tell us, my wife is prone to miscarriage and early labour. We’ve lost more children in early pregnancy than we have seen born. We’ve spent more time than I wish to remember in neonatal intensive care units, trying to parent babies attached to the machines keeping them alive. There is no medical explanation. When we ask if this is normal we are told that we are “just unlucky”.
It feels more than ‘just unlucky’ and it is. The truth is, not enough research is being done to find out why some women are ‘just unlucky’. Premature birth is the biggest killer of babies in the UK with 1,300 dying every year. That’s 2,600 parents that have had to say goodbye before they’ve even had a chance to really say hello.
That’s a horrible figure to have over our heads as we get ready to welcome baby number six into the world.
For the next two weeks, Divi Module Editor will be sold for $8. All profits from sales will go to Bliss, a charity that funds research into the causes of premature birth.
Having a baby should be just about the most exciting thing you do in life. The fear of premature birth is a rain cloud over every kick and wobble. We can help by funding the research that unearths the cause.
Developer, Designer, Daddy.